I mentioned that I met someone on a social networking site (guess which one?). No idea who the person is but we got chatting and then talking. Let’s call him B*. He’s very much a bahaushe from the thickest part of Hausa land! He’s in the UK too (that’s a plus). So, we got chatting….. First conversation and B* hints at marriage! (you see what’s wrong with guys!) It seems like he’s on the look-out too especially for a bahausa living in the UK. What did I say to him?
I had to form a bit now; so I said: “well I am taKen.”
He replies: “ai ba’a daura auren ba ko? Qilan rabo na ne”.
To this, I just said “Hn…ko? Toh Allah Ya yi mana zabi mafi alheri”...
So with him, he’ll know from the get go that he’s joining a queue (he has no idea that the queue is a short one! ;-) at least for now)….
Tuesday, 14 April 2009
Special delivery- a promise is a promise
March was come-back month! Two in a month is good, but ai an basu red card, so… maybe it’s not so good… before I go off on a tangent, here are their stories …
Fella 1 is Ma-G. Ma-G is an old acquaintance who tried it on a while ago. We met at a wedding- abokin ango…. You know the drill…. He was average looking, tall and very dark (baki-wuluk... in a good way). So tall, dark, and he had a very nice accent (yes! Hausa accent). He’s from a different region and lived in a different state.
I entertained his telephone calls but I knew it was all going nowhere… (because he felt that a woman’s place is ONLY at home- that’ll be a topic for another day). There was also no depth to the way he related to me; it was as though he was just engaging to give-it-a-try. This was unfortunate because I sensed it straight away- there is no point attempting to “get to know me” if you’re not going to commit to the process whole-heartedly and determinedly...
Anyway, with Ma-G it all went cold when I came back to the UK… So guess who called mid-March? Ma-G!! Sounded as good as ever and as laid-back as ever..
“Kin share ni kwana biyu” ( I h8 conversations that start like this)
“so yaushe za ki dawo ne?”
“ina fa jiranki”… Daman, the moment a conversation starts like that, na san kawai MAGANA ce. So I told him again, “Au, ai an riga ka.”
Ya ce, “Kai wasa ki ke yi.”
Wai ya zan yi mai haka… bla bla bla…. So he seems to want in all of a sudden (but no chance) …why start and stop?…
Last week of March Fella 2, Ma-Mu got in touch. Ma-Mu had been well and truly deleted from my life. Ma-Mu is a very confident and attractive man. He knew what to say. He was older than I was and I felt I could learn a lot from him. His outgoing nature seemed to complement my somewhat shy and reserved demeanour. He knew his rights, was well-travelled, he had the right dose of ambition and was a do-er. Ma-Mu would recommend a du’a, quote a verse of the Holy book, pray into the night. Ma-Mu seems like a fairy-tale ko?..... He was!!
Ma-mu was many wonderful things including MARRIED with kids! To his credit he himself disclosed this info. He said they were separated. When I asked “saki uku?” he said “two but they’re separated”… In my books that = still married… What followed were vital signs that pointed to him being very married. Ni bazan iya ba! So although I was going to miss him, I DELETED the man from my mind and prayed to forget (Alhamdulillahi bamu dade ba tare).
So what does he want now? He called to say hi. He “misses me”… blah blah blah… maybe I wouldn’t have answered if I had recognised the number, maybe I still would have… My sensible mind is telling me, this is a no-go zone…
As I write this post, i’m quickly becoming aware that these two come-backs are not really come-backs…. Just flash-backs from dreams which turned into nightmares. (Surat Falaq 3x over the left shoulder and change sleeping side)…
These two fellas, I’m afraid must remain in the past…
Fella 1 is Ma-G. Ma-G is an old acquaintance who tried it on a while ago. We met at a wedding- abokin ango…. You know the drill…. He was average looking, tall and very dark (baki-wuluk... in a good way). So tall, dark, and he had a very nice accent (yes! Hausa accent). He’s from a different region and lived in a different state.
I entertained his telephone calls but I knew it was all going nowhere… (because he felt that a woman’s place is ONLY at home- that’ll be a topic for another day). There was also no depth to the way he related to me; it was as though he was just engaging to give-it-a-try. This was unfortunate because I sensed it straight away- there is no point attempting to “get to know me” if you’re not going to commit to the process whole-heartedly and determinedly...
Anyway, with Ma-G it all went cold when I came back to the UK… So guess who called mid-March? Ma-G!! Sounded as good as ever and as laid-back as ever..
“Kin share ni kwana biyu” ( I h8 conversations that start like this)
“so yaushe za ki dawo ne?”
“ina fa jiranki”… Daman, the moment a conversation starts like that, na san kawai MAGANA ce. So I told him again, “Au, ai an riga ka.”
Ya ce, “Kai wasa ki ke yi.”
Wai ya zan yi mai haka… bla bla bla…. So he seems to want in all of a sudden (but no chance) …why start and stop?…
Last week of March Fella 2, Ma-Mu got in touch. Ma-Mu had been well and truly deleted from my life. Ma-Mu is a very confident and attractive man. He knew what to say. He was older than I was and I felt I could learn a lot from him. His outgoing nature seemed to complement my somewhat shy and reserved demeanour. He knew his rights, was well-travelled, he had the right dose of ambition and was a do-er. Ma-Mu would recommend a du’a, quote a verse of the Holy book, pray into the night. Ma-Mu seems like a fairy-tale ko?..... He was!!
Ma-mu was many wonderful things including MARRIED with kids! To his credit he himself disclosed this info. He said they were separated. When I asked “saki uku?” he said “two but they’re separated”… In my books that = still married… What followed were vital signs that pointed to him being very married. Ni bazan iya ba! So although I was going to miss him, I DELETED the man from my mind and prayed to forget (Alhamdulillahi bamu dade ba tare).
So what does he want now? He called to say hi. He “misses me”… blah blah blah… maybe I wouldn’t have answered if I had recognised the number, maybe I still would have… My sensible mind is telling me, this is a no-go zone…
As I write this post, i’m quickly becoming aware that these two come-backs are not really come-backs…. Just flash-backs from dreams which turned into nightmares. (Surat Falaq 3x over the left shoulder and change sleeping side)…
These two fellas, I’m afraid must remain in the past…
Tuesday, 7 April 2009
Hello Strangers
Hello!
I've been in hiatus. Sorry, blogging takes some getting used to.... I have plenty of stories to tell. I'm falling over myself to write them down. I must write them before I lose them. March was an interesting month. On the Hausamatch front, there were TWO comebacks!!! Believe it. I know i'm multi-dating now but kai.... I want some freshness... koko dai in bada second chance? I guess you can't comment until you know the circumstances. Labarai to follow soon ISA.
I also met someone on a popular social networking site... some seriOus bahaushe!! lol... stay tuned
To "anonymous" nagode for the boost.
True and True
Sky High
I've been in hiatus. Sorry, blogging takes some getting used to.... I have plenty of stories to tell. I'm falling over myself to write them down. I must write them before I lose them. March was an interesting month. On the Hausamatch front, there were TWO comebacks!!! Believe it. I know i'm multi-dating now but kai.... I want some freshness... koko dai in bada second chance? I guess you can't comment until you know the circumstances. Labarai to follow soon ISA.
I also met someone on a popular social networking site... some seriOus bahaushe!! lol... stay tuned
To "anonymous" nagode for the boost.
True and True
Sky High
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